Nathaniel Branson & Six Pillars of Self Esteem Discussion

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Collapse SubdiscussionDoris Delucia
Doris Delucia
MondayMay 18 at 8:52am
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Dr Kc and Class:
The new concept of self-compassion involves being kind to ourselves and others
under the basic understanding we are all human and experience the same suffering
and personal inadequacy (Reichel, 2015). It promotes “mindfulness” which is just
fundamentally being and becoming more self-aware and aware of your immediate
and current surroundings and feelings. By doing this, one would be more open to
understanding not just our own feelings self-worth (or lack thereof), but those
feelings of others that we encounter. It is quite an interesting premise. Nathanial
Branden’s concept of self-esteem stems from the idea that if we value and respect
ourselves, we would be more apt to treat others with “respect, goodwill, and fairness,
since we do not tend to perceive them as a threat” (Reece & Reece, 2017, p. 79).
And although that seems to make sense, the trouble is that self-esteem can be
prone to artificial inflation by those others (such as parents, teachers, etc.) when it is
not really merited. With self-compassion, we would acknowledge negative feelings
that can come about during difficult times, but without the self-judgment that can
normally occur when our self-esteem takes a hit, and then move on. One of my
favorite movie quotes comes from Disney’s live-action Cinderalla, which is “Have
Courage and Be Kind.” Such a simple-sounding concept, but much easier said than
done.
It is funny that we should be studying this now since, in my children’s school district,
today marks the very first “Mindful Monday”, which will occur for the next few
Mondays until the end of the school year. The day is full of activities that will
encourage the children to take stock of themselves and others, as well as what is
going on in the world around them, and to consider how they are feeling and what
kind of “energy” they are putting out. This self-awareness is huge as it will lead them
to be able to determine where their pitfalls are when it comes to their feelings of
inadequacy and what hurts or angers them most, and, most importantly, it will allow
them to see perhaps how their words or actions could make someone else feel or
act. At the end of the day, they submit a reflection on what they learned through the
day’s activities. I am interested to see what my children will come away with after
today.
Doris
Works cited
Reece, B., & Reece, M. (2017). Effective Human Relations: Interpersonal and
Organizational Applications, 13th Edition. Boston: Cengage Learning.
Reichel, J. (2015, September 22). Is Self-Compassion the New and Improved SelfEsteem? Retrieved from The Epoch Times: https://www.theepochtimes.com/is-selfcompassion-the-new-and-improved-self-
esteem_1753784.html?utm_expvariant=D001_01&utm_expid=2108267211.b4WAd2xRR0ybC6ydhoAj9w.1&utm_referrer=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.google.co
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Collapse SubdiscussionProfessor Martinez
Professor Martinez
MondayMay 18 at 2:50pm
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Good morning Doris~
Within your response this week your opening thoughts note that the ‘new concept
of self-compassion involves being kind to ourselves and others under the basic
understanding we are all human and experience the same suffering and personal
inadequacy (Reichel, 2015)’, in many ways difficult for some people to embrace.
Mindfulness is a form of ‘practice’ that embraces this notion and provides ways for
us to embrace these thoughts as practicing mindfulness involves becoming more
aware of ourselves and in doing so, we then expand our ability and capacity to be
‘mindfully more aware others’. The thought is that where we might show kindness
and compassion to ‘others’ we learn to do the same for ourselves.
In a way, Nathaniel Branden’s position is that if we are able to extend kindness and
compassion to ourselves, ‘be more accepting’ of ourselves, then ultimately we would
be able to do the same to/for others: ‘be kind to ourselves/be kind to others’. Selfcompassion, as you have noted, is not as superficial as we recognize and accept
negative feelings or suffering and that we do not minimize these feelings as they are
valid.
What a great Disney quote to include int his week’s work: ‘Have Courage and Be
Kind.”
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Collapse SubdiscussionEstefany Gutierrez
Estefany Gutierrez
ThursdayMay 21 at 7:03pm
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Good evening Professor.
I left out the part about self-compassion. Like you mentioned It is said that if we have
self-compassion for ourselves we will for others. The more self-compassion we have
for ourselves the happier we will be . We will learn to be in peace not only with our
self but with others , at our job, or any interaction we encounter in our daily life’s.
Self-compassion reflects strength.
I was looking forward to this chapter and i must say I learned much from it and think
differently about myself.
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Collapse SubdiscussionDoris Delucia
Doris Delucia
YesterdayMay 22 at 6:22am
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Dr. Kc,
I can see how the concept of self-compassion could encourage others to be more
understanding toward themselves and others around them and am excited to see its
implementation in the school system. Kids need to grow up realizing that success
comes about after giving it your best attempt and that failure is a normal part of life
and success. I also like the idea that they can be more sympathetic to others as I
feel this notion is lacking these days, particularly in today’s youth with bullying being
on the rise. I can only hope that having these children learn to be more
compassionate to themselves and others would make bullying a thing of the past or
at least diminish in the number of occurrences.
Doris
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Collapse SubdiscussionMichelle Gil
Michelle Gil
1:05amMay 23 at 1:05am
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Hello Doris,
I love that your children’s school is incorporating energy into their curriculum. I am a
high believer in energy, I am always looking at the positive of things and believe in
the law of attractions.
Once one speaks to the universe in the form of having it already, whatever it is that
you speak of will come to you.
I believe that one’s energy can be read through body language, voice, eyes, and
activity so being able to learn about energy at a young age is amazing.
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Collapse SubdiscussionFahad Rehman
Fahad Rehman
6:24amMay 23 at 6:24am
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Hello Doris,
I enjoyed reading your post. Your thoughts on self-compassion have a positive vibe.
It’s important for us humans to be kind to ourselves. Mindfulness is indeed a great
way to promote this. I would like to add that understanding our self worth not only
benefits us but also society as a whole. It takes human relations of trust,
understanding, and forgiveness to a whole new dimension.
I agree with the fact that teaching theses ideologies to children would be a great
idea. It would be a great realization for the youth that failures happen at every
instance of life and it’s okay to fail in at things in life.
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Collapse SubdiscussionPrecious Floyd
Precious Floyd
TuesdayMay 19 at 4:25am
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Hello Class and Professor,
While reading Chapter 4, and the article “Is Self-Compassion the New & Improved
Self-Esteem, I feel that Self-Compassion can be the new Self-Esteem. Having SelfRespect means that you respect others, and respecting others is always a good
thing. Getting high self-esteem, Brandon said the first thing to do is to start living
consciously.
Nathaniel Branden says living consciously is the highest manifestation of life—the
basic tool of survival. If we don’t bring an appropriate level of consciousness to our
life, the penalty is a diminished sense of self-efficacy and self-respect. One barrier to
living consciously is the evasion of facts that make us uncomfortable. Branden says
that to live consciously means to seek awareness of everything that bears on our
actions, purposes, values, and goals (Reece, 2016 Pg 85).
Having compassion for others is a great thing. You are living the saying “Do on to
others as others do on to you”. If a person can be compassionate to others, then
they will have Self-Compassion. Just like Branden mentioned how to work on having
self-esteem, a person have to start with living consciously, thats what the
Buddhist Philosophy suggest. This is just done by meditating, which helps a person
see things more clearly.
When people were able to be compassionate and understanding toward themselves,
they were more likely to show social connectedness, personal responsibility,
motivation to change, and emotional resilience. It was also linked to life satisfaction,
wisdom, happiness, optimism, and curiosity (Reichel, 2015).
“Self-compassion provides an island of calm, a refuge from the stormy seas of
endless positive and negative self-judgement, so that we can finally stop asking, ‘Am
I as good as they are? Am I good enough?’” (Neff, 2011).
Understanding things will open up the eyes. You can see what is needed to become
a person of your own identity. If it’s Meditating, Praying or following Brandon’s
examples on how to gain high self-esteem.
I agree that some of this generation of young adults and teens do feel privileged.
Narcissism levels are up, and several social surveys say Millennials have more
entitlement and unrealistic expectations than previous generations (Reichel, 2015).
This is because the last generation was raised differently. Something always said to
myself. This generation do not have respect nowadays. You see it all the time, but
because they have no respect for others, this means they have no respect for
themselves. This is why there is no compassion. And the majority of the time, most
of the people who don’t have compassion, normally are hurting in the inside.
I agree with Neff, “Self-compassion provides an island of calm, a refuge from the
stormy seas of endless positive and negative self-judgement, so that we can finally
stop asking, ‘Am I as good as they are? Am I good enough?’” (Neff, 2011).
If Narcissist people look into what they are doing and accept it, they can become
one with themselves and start treating people and situations differently.
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References:
Reece, B., Reece, M. Effective Human Relations: Interpersonal And Organizational
Applications. [VitalSource Bookshelf]. Retrieved
from https://online.vitalsource.com/#/books/9781337003162/ (Links to an external
site.)
Justina Reichel, The Epoch Times, Article Link
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Collapse SubdiscussionProfessor Martinez
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TuesdayMay 19 at 9:42am
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Good morning Precious~
Within your response you make reference to having read the article ‘”Is SelfCompassion the New & Improved Self-Esteem?’ and note that it is possible that
‘self-compassion’ might be the new self-esteem.
According to Brandon the first step to take in order to develop a high sense of selfesteem is to start living consciously. In order to do so, one must choose to start
living mindfully, in other words, living a mindful life with intention. Some people have
great difficulty grasping this concept so it helps to break it down in a manner that
people can understand. To live with ‘intention’ requires being ‘mindful’, another word
for this could be ‘pay attention’. When we ‘pay attention’ to what we do, how we do it,
and why we do things, we are starting to be mindful of our actions.
Brandens ‘Six Pillars’ provide guidelines to help to live a life mindfully or with
intention and how this approach to life has a direct impact on strengthing one’s selfesteem through the practice of mindfulness which in turn makes it possible to be
compassionate to others:
1. Living consciously
2. Self-acceptance
3. Self-responsibility
4. Self-assertiveness
5. Living purposefully
6. Personal integrity
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Collapse SubdiscussionEstefany Gutierrez
Estefany Gutierrez
ThursdayMay 21 at 7:08pm
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Good afternoon Precious
Great post ! , very well explained . I
You mentioned how today’s generation have no respect for others . Some are
overly full of them selves and arrogant. Many of the millennials look for approval
from others , they are not capable of making their own decisions and take
responsibility for their acts. Today, millennials tend to stick to what society thinks is
right. It’s all based of media and idolize the wrong people.
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Collapse SubdiscussionMichelle Gil
Michelle Gil
1:09amMay 23 at 1:09am
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Hello precious,
Very amazing post and so informative. I agree with you when you state “Do on to
others as others do on to you”., I am a high believer in that as well because if you
are compassionate towards your self you will be compassionate towards others.
Karma is a real thing and it will come right back around, so why not be nice and
understanding to others?
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Collapse SubdiscussionFahad Rehman
Fahad Rehman
6:34amMay 23 at 6:34am
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Hello Precious,
Very well-written post. I couldn’t agree more on what Nathaniel Branden said
regarding consciousness as the basic tool of survival. We often curse ourselves for
our inefficiency at doing things and this sow the seeds of self-doubt which eventually
germinates and has an adverse impact on our actions, relations in life.
I agree with the fact that the younger generation has too many expectations in life.
The truth is that reality hits them hard and they end up being too harsh on
themselves. Being kind to ourselves is something that I strongly promote. Success
and failures are only the outcomes of a situation.
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Collapse SubdiscussionFahad Rehman
Fahad Rehman
TuesdayMay 19 at 11:30am
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Self-esteem is essential for every individual to progress in life and it is necessary to
tackle the challenges that come along. Branden highlighted the importance of selfesteem as a step for not only avoiding numerous problems, but also behaviors and
attitudes that can enhance life choices and actions. However, while self-esteem was
necessary, the method of building it exposed everyone involved to one small flaw of
narcissism. While the end product was meant to be positive, the approach utilized
building a personality that was dependent on external validation, and this was
harming the consistency of esteem. This is where the new concept of building selfcompassion, as discussed by Neff, comes in as an updated version of self-esteem.
The concept of self-compassion ensures no buildup of narcissism and instead helps
one combat feeling low and lack of confidence in a more constructive manner.
Instead of just damaging the belief system with the idea that nothing bad can
happen to you, self-compassion helps one deal with their limitations more kindly. It
not only restores confidence and builds self-esteem but also does not need any
external validation to hold on to the attained confidence.
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Collapse SubdiscussionFahad Rehman
Fahad Rehman
TuesdayMay 19 at 11:32am
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Correct words: 191
References
Reece, B., & Reece, M. (2017). Effective Human Relations: Interpersonal and
Organizational Applications, 13th ed. Boston: Cengage Learning.
Reichel, J. (2015). Is Self-Compassion the New and Improved Self-Esteem?. The
Epoch Times. Retrieved from https://www.theepochtimes.com/is-self-compassionthe-new-and-improved-selfesteem_1753784.html?utm_expvariant=D001_01&utm_expid=2108267211.b4WAd2xRR0ybC6ydhoAj9w.1&utm_referrer=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.google.co
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Collapse SubdiscussionProfessor Martinez
Professor Martinez
TuesdayMay 19 at 6:19pm
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Got it~
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Collapse SubdiscussionProfessor Martinez
Professor Martinez
TuesdayMay 19 at 6:19pm
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Good evening Fahad~
Within your response, you note that it seems that positive self-esteem is essential for
anyone to be able to progress in life and face and tackle the challenges that can
occur.
As you have noted in addition to the work that Branden has done with his ‘Six
Pillars’, Neff also contributed to the field with an emphasis on building a sense of
self-compassion which is a ‘new’ version of ‘self-esteem’.
Self-compassion is essential for everyone and that being said it is often a difficult
concept to embrace. Originally ‘self-esteem’ almost required a focus on the ‘self’
and not necessarily in a positive way, it was at the cost of not being aware of others.
Under these circumstances, it is very difficult to be ‘aware’ of others. A mindful
approach to our everyday actions helps us to focus on the moment and begin to
create a sense of acceptance of our selves and at the same time develop a sense of
‘compassion’ towards our selves, in the same manner, that we would be kind or
compassionate to others. ‘Self-compassion’ allows us to be kinder to ourselves and
accepting of any shortcomings that we might have and in doing so we are then able
to be kind and compassionate to others.
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Collapse SubdiscussionDoris Delucia
Doris Delucia
YesterdayMay 22 at 5:54am
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Hi Fahad,
I agree that the strategy of building self-esteem in schools as it was implemented
seemed to have done more harm than good. As you mentioned, it built a validation
system that largely relied on the validation from others (i.e. peers, parents,
teachers). The problem with this was that constant affirmation was needed for their
self-worth to be intact and any hint of failure or defeat would be potentially
crushing. To this end, self-compassion will allow children to grow up with the
knowledge that failures are expected and necessary in life and on the road to
success. They will also be able to appreciate all their achievements better since the
subsequent rewards and accolades will be well-earned. Excellent post!
Doris
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Collapse SubdiscussionDoris Delucia
Doris Delucia
YesterdayMay 22 at 5:56am
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Collapse SubdiscussionOctavia Torbert
Octavia Torbert
WednesdayMay 20 at 4:29am
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Hello Professor and Class,
The topic this week reminded me of a saying I learned a long time ago when I was a
young girl. It stated you can tell a girl she is beautiful a 100 times and you can call
her ugly 1 time and that 1 ugly time will whip away all of the beautiful comments sh
ever received. That is where self-esteem comes into play. We rely a lot on other
people’s judgments of us to dictate how we feel about our selves. In the new concept
of self-esteem, it wants us to have less self-compassion for ourselves and silence
the self-criticism more. Self-compassion is looked at as having self-pity and no
wants to pity themselves. Which I can completely understand because we can be
our own worst enemy. We get so wrapped in all of the negative things that are in our
heads that we forget to look at all of our positives. After one mistake, we are so
quick to give in to all of the bad things that have ever been said about us. That is
where Nathaniel Branden’s idea comes into play. With Nathaniel Branden’s idea, he
believes that self-efficacy combined with self-respect builds up your selfesteem. Self-efficacy is the confidence in yourself to achieve certain tasks and
goals you have set for yourself and self-respect meaning the way you think and feel
about yourself. Both of these are very important to build one’s self-esteem because if
you don’t think highly of yourself no one else will. Then you have to think so highly of
your self that you will not allow anyone to take that from you. Overall, I think you will
need to follow both ideas to fully reach your full self-esteem potential. Both theories
provided some great resources but putting them all together will definitely have an
amazing and better impact in my opinion.
Resources:
Reece, B. L., & Reece, M. (2017). Effective Human Relations: Interpersonal and
Organizational Applications (13th ed.). Boston, MA: Cengage Learning.
Reichel, Justina. (2015, September 23). Is Self-Compassion the New and Improved
Self-Esteem? Retrieved May 20, 2020, from https://www.theepochtimes.com/is-selfcompassion-the-new-and-improved-selfesteem_1753784.html?utm_expvariant=D001_01&utm_expid=2108267211.b4WAd2xRR0ybC6ydhoAj9w.1&utm_referrer=https://www.google.com/ (Links to
an external site.)
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Collapse SubdiscussionProfessor Martinez
Professor Martinez
WednesdayMay 20 at 3:35pm
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Good afternoon Octavia~
Within your response you share an old quote as an example of how self-esteem can
be affected: It stated you can tell a girl she is beautiful a 100 times and you can call
her ugly 1 time and that 1 ugly time will whip away all of the beautiful comments sh
ever received.’ such a great example of how easily one’s self-esteem can be
affected.
One of the mitigating filters to negative self-esteem is becoming aware of and
practicing self-compassion; however as you have noted many people misunderstand
self-compassion as a form of ‘self-pity’ which it is not. Self-compassion comes into
our lives or our mindset when we begin to embrace a ‘mindful approach’ to how we
live and how we are with other people. For many it is a natural thing to do to show
kindness and/or compassion to others as the right thing to do; however, many feel
that it is ‘not normal’ to be kind to oneself or show compassion to the self.
The question could be asked ‘how’ can we be compassionate to others or show
kindness to others if we ‘first’ are unable to do the same towards ourselves.
Ultimately, it is our ability to show compassion to ourselves that prepares us to be
compassionate to others. Many of Nathaniel Branden’s thoughts support the
importance of mindfulness and self-compassion.
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Collapse SubdiscussionIndia Brown
India Brown
YesterdayMay 22 at 1:34pm
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Hi Octavia,
I liked the example you used for self-esteem. We may not realize it but you’re correct
about needing others approval at times. I know so many people, including myself at
times, that says they don’t care what other people think of themselves. But in all
reality we do. When I go outside, whether I’m just going to the store, I like to look
nice. I don’t want people to think I look shabby. I respect others I don’t want people
to think I’m mean so I speak. A simple “Hello, how are you?” can go a long way.
When you’re out in the world you never know who you’ll come across.
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Collapse SubdiscussionEstefany Gutierrez
Estefany Gutierrez
ThursdayMay 21 at 4:45pm
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Good Afternoon Class,
It has been said that millennial’s’ are described as snowflakes. Snowflakes typically
refers to a person being overly inflated sense of uniqueness, overly emotional, easily
offended by others, and not being able to deal with others opinion and
personalities. This term has been used as an insult to younger generations. As
read on the E-Text, Chapter 4, Aimee Lee Ball states that is not “about pumping
ourselves up so to feel great 100% of the time.” Is not hearing from your closest
family members that we are the best at all times. Is having a clear understanding of
what Self-Concept is. Self-Concept is the beliefs, facts, opinions, and perceptions
we have about ourselves in present time. Our self-concept of today comes from
information we previously obtained from others. Self-Concept is also reflected in life
events that happened during our childhood, adolescence, and adulthood. Many
events or people in our lives shape our self-concept. People and previous events in
our lives influence the decisions we make, our feelings, judgement, and behaviors
towards others and ourselves we not even noticing it. As per Nathaniel Brandon his
concept of improving self-esteem is to live consciously. To live at the highest level
of manifestation of life. He also implements to us that people who take
responsibility for own decisions have a higher self-esteem.
reference: Chapter 4, E- Text, Effective Human Relations: Interpersonal And
Organizational Applications, 13th Edition, By Reece and Reece.
Online article, Self-Compassion the New and Improved Self-Esteem?
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Collapse SubdiscussionProfessor Martinez
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ThursdayMay 21 at 9:04pm
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Good evening Estefany~
Within your response you open your discussion by sharing the thought that the
millennial generation is commonly known as ‘snowflakes’ or ‘the snowflake
generation.
As you have noted this generation is understood as largely having an over-inflated
sense of uniqueness (of being special), being overly emotional, easily offended by
others, and unable to deal with other people and opinions. It is thought that this is a
generation that was sheltered and protected from needing to know that they are not
always ‘the best’ at something and that it is entirely possible that someone else
might be better, they have been protected from the concept of competition in sports
especially at the younger ages and they are rarely encouraged to recognize the
achievements of others. That being the case, in the absence of all of these
experiences how are they ever to know the joy and recognition when they have done
the best job or know the feeling of pride when someone you care about is
recognized for their accomplishments.
These struggles started surfacing as this generation entered college and then
moved into the workforce where they have great difficulty ‘fitting in’ like everyone
else. Being raised from this perspective creates the possibility for the development
of a false sense of self-esteem and in some cases grandiosity when it is not
warranted. From this perspective we can see how beneficial Nathaniel Brandon’s
concept of ‘self-compassion’ might be as it encourages acceptance of one’s
struggles and accomplishments which would encourage the development of
compassion n towards others.
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Collapse SubdiscussionDanielle Salayi
Danielle Salayi
YesterdayMay 22 at 12:13am
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Estefany,
I have never heard of the term snowflake, even after reading what Dr. KC had said. I
believe that term is so right because of many millennials because overly obsessed
with themselves. I actually work with millennials and can see that many of them act
this way.
Thanks,
Danielle
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Collapse SubdiscussionIndia Brown
India Brown
ThursdayMay 21 at 9:10pm
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Hi Everyone,
Firstly, I’d like to discuss who I agree with. I agree with Nathaniel Branden. Referring
back to the eText, “He states that the ultimate source of self-esteem can only be
internal: It is the relationship between a person’s self-efficacy and self-respect.”
(Reece; Pg. 78) That one sentence there told me everything. How can you have a
high self-esteem if you don’t feel good and confident about yourself (the self-respect
aspect)? How can you feel confident about completing your goals, whether easy or
challenging, if your self-efficacy is low? I don’t agree with the article above that
follows the Buddhist philosophy on self-esteem. I am my own person and know for a
fact that the Buddhist philosophy wouldn’t work for me. It may, however, work for
another person. I just don’t think that eliminating feelings of low self-esteem will
make you recognize high self-esteem. For example, I’m 29 years old and I don’t
know how to ride a bike (I know don’t laugh). I just bought my oldest daughter a bike,
with training wheels, but I’m not confident in teaching her how to ride a bike. So I
asked a family member to help me teach my daughter how to ride a bike. Referring
back to the eText, “Self-efficacy can influence which tasks you take on and which
ones you avoid.” (Reece; Pg. 79) If a person isn’t familiar with or just doesn’t know
how to drive will they automatically sign themselves up for the road test? No, they
would go learn at a driving school or get someone of legal age that they trust to
teach them. I believe in taking “baby steps” until you’ve mastered it. All of that can
build up self-esteem, self-respect and self-efficacy to make you confident in
whatever you do. Different goals can be achieved, you feel good about yourself and
you won’t settle for less in anything.
– India
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References: https://online.vitalsource.com/#/books/9781337003162/cfi/0!/4/2@100:0
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Collapse SubdiscussionDanielle Salayi
Danielle Salayi
YesterdayMay 22 at 12:11am
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India,
I agree with Nathanial Branden as well. Since learning that self-esteem is internal
and can only be controlled by you, I think that’s why many people have so much of it.
I know that many young people have higher self-esteem that myself and this is
because that is something that is learned.
Thanks,
Danielle
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Collapse SubdiscussionIndia Brown
India Brown
YesterdayMay 22 at 12:11pm
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Hi Danielle,
Thank you for your feedback. Yes, sometimes we do find people with a higher selfesteem than we do and that’s ok. The more we work on ourselves, the better we’ll
understand ourselves.
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Collapse SubdiscussionProfessor Martinez
Professor Martinez
YesterdayMay 22 at 10:30am
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Good morning India~
Within your initial response you share with the members of our learning community
that you are in agreement with Nathaniel Branden’s concept of self-esteem.
Branden notes in the quote above that self-esteem can only come from the inside,
internally meaning the ‘work’ it takes to embrace the practice of ‘self-compassion’
comes from within. The changes and work that we are able to do internally is what
allows us to transition and make changes that ultimately will strengthen our selfesteem. It is helpful to be aware of what you can do and what you are not able to do,
on the other hand when we are able to strengthen our self-esteem to include
compassion to ourselves, we are in a better position to also be compassionate to
others.
Our age is just a number and we have quite a spread of ages within our learning
community that being said and we should all hopefully remain open to learning and
embracing new possibilities and as you have noted by increasing our self-esttem
with ‘baby steps’ will help us continue to grow.
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Collapse SubdiscussionDanielle Salayi
Danielle Salayi
YesterdayMay 22 at 12:09am
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Dr. KC and Class,
Building self-esteem is easy for some people. Although self-esteem can only be
internal, it is the relationship between a person’s self-efficacy and self-respect. Selfefficacy is the learned expectation of success. Low self-esteem is the root problem
for many individuals which makes for it to be the root of most societal problems and
dysfunctions as well (VitalSource).
In the article, it talks about how all of these low self-esteem issues cause such
negativity on the world. It started with adults and then children seeing their parents
have poor self-esteem resulted in them acting that way. It also can hinder the way
that parents treat their children. Having such low self-esteem like that can cause
such negativity in the world.
The new concept of self-esteem created such positive energy. It seems like more
millennials and kids are self-absorbed and only care about themselves. Instead of
millennials being kind and doing things for others, all they really care about it
themselves and what is good for them. I actually work with girls who follow in that
pattern and it is such a damper to see kids act this way. They are “greedy” and only
out for themselves (ThePochTimes).
Self-esteem is a learned trait so gaining such positivity can change the way
someone thinks. Since this philosophy stands in direct contrast to the notion of
eliminating all feelings of low self-esteem and setting perfectionistic or idealistic
standards for oneself, it is easier for someone to gain high self-esteem.
After reading what Nathaniel Branden’s theory in the article, I have a better
understanding of what self-esteem is. I think having too much self-esteem is a bad
move but having too little also can be an issue. I personally think that having just
enough self-esteem to push yourself to be the best person is perfect.
Thanks,
Danielle
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References:
Hurricane, C., America, Economy, Security, N., & Election, 2020. (2015, September
23). Is Self-Compassion the New and Improved Self-Esteem? Retrieved from
https://www.theepochtimes.com/is-self-compassion-the-new-and-improved-selfesteem_1753784.html?utm_expvariant=D001_01&utm_expid=2108267211.b4WAd2xRR0ybC6ydhoAj9w.1&utm_referrer=https://www.google.com/
VitalSource Bookshelf Online. (n.d.). Retrieved from
https://online.vitalsource.com/#/books/9781337003162/cfi/103!/4/4@0.00:65.0
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Collapse SubdiscussionTalita Teixeira
Talita Teixeira
YesterdayMay 22 at 5:20am
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Hi All,
May I just begin this weeks’ discussion with a personal statement? After reading the
article about self-compassion and self-esteem, I have never resonated with
something so deeply. Professor, it’s like you knew I needed to read this, this week. It
was just what I needed and I am happy to say I purchased Kirstin Neff’s personal
development book and workbook guide. To me, this weeks’ lesson was very
powerful. Furthermore, the new concept of self-esteem or “the more stable
alternative” is called, self-compassion. Showing warmth, care and kindness to
yourself in times of stress or hardship, as you would a close friend, is what being
self-compassionate is all about (Reichel 2015). From what I took from the reading
was that when you decide to fight your inner demons and overcoming what really
makes you hurt, you can also create a greater sense of self-worth. To me, it all
comes down to fostering resilience. I think this new concept would help mental
illness and enhance self-worth, which would then lead to happiness. Essentially, I
think that forgiving oneself from perfectionism, competitiveness or superiority would
lead to a bigger picture which is the self-esteem we are in search of, free of
perceptions and anxiety. In contrast, according to the book, self-esteem can only be
internal and coincides with self-efficacy, which is the learned expectation of success
and self-respect, which is what you think and feel about yourself. Both in the
workplace would be ideal because your judgment of your own value is a primary
factor in achieving personal and career success (Reece 79).
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References:
Reece, B. L., & Reece, M. (2017). Effective human relations: interpersonal and
organizational applications. Boston, MA: Cengage Learning.
Hurricane, C., Security, N., & Election, 2020. (2015, September 23). Is SelfCompassion the New and Improved Self-Esteem? Retrieved May 21, 2020,
from https://www.theepochtimes.com/is-self-compassion-the-new-and-improvedself-esteem_1753784.html?utm_expvariant=D001_01&utm_expid=2108267211.b4WAd2xRR0ybC6ydhoAj9w.1&utm_referrer=https://www.google.com/ (Links to
an external site.)
-Talita
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Collapse SubdiscussionIndia Brown
India Brown
YesterdayMay 22 at 12:04pm
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Hi Talita,
I’m also glad that this week’s discussion was on self-esteem. Sometimes we don’t
understand or see that we do struggle or fight with our inner demons. Once we dig
deep and look at our inner selves, maybe we can figure out what we need to work
on. Once we understand and find ourselves, everything starts falling into place. We
will be able to find relationships, both friendly and intimately, on our mental level.
Find hobbies that we enjoy, know what career we would like to do, complete short
and long term goals, and overall just be positive for yourself and others.
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Collapse SubdiscussionMichelle Gil
Michelle Gil
1:02amMay 23 at 1:02am
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Hello Class,
Self-esteem has always been thought of as the value of yourself, how much you love
yourself, and how you self reflects, well at least to me. In the proper way as per the
E-text “self-esteem can only be internal: It is the relationship between a per- son’s
self-efficacy and self-respect.” which can also be defined as that because of our
value, our beliefs, and our respect. In the article “Is Self-Compassion the New &
Improved Self-Esteem?” Self-Esteem is described as reaching into your mind and
self and being self-compassionate which I can also see as to why.
I can see that giving ones sell the self-compassion you need could make you a
better wholesome person where your self-esteem is at the level it should be because
you are understanding yourself, and when you understand yourself you can
understand yourself others and be self-compassionate as well. Now from the E-text,
I agree with Nathaniel BRadon’s ideas of self-esteem being based on self-efficacy
and self- respect because I believe in the law of attraction and when you “believe in
your abilities” you are able to take over your own life and story. Then self-respect
comes in because when you respect yourself you know how you think about yourself
and the judgment of others does not matter, and even if did the “People with a
strong sense of self-efficacy recover quickly from setbacks and disappointments.”
which means you would not be feeling pity for yourself because you know your
complete worth. “. Nathaniel Branden believes that the healthier our self-esteem, the
more inclined we are to treat others with respect, goodwill, and fairness, since we do
not tend to perceive them as a threat, and since self-respect is the foundation of
respect for others.” he is correct because when you are respected within yourself
you will treat other how you would want to be treated.
I believe that when you know who you truly are and you have met that person and
believe that your self-esteem is where it should be, I believe one could take over the
world because no matter the setbacks or disappointments no one’s judgment could
take away what you know and what you can make of yourself. There is no staying
the same forever, tomorrow we are all different than what we were the day before
and that is evolving! We evolve each day to be the better version of ourselves and
with Self-efficacy and Self-respect we know our true Self-Esteem.
WC:415
Reece, Barry, Monique Reece. Effective Human Relations: Interpersonal And
Organizational Applications.. [VitalSource Bookshelf].
Reichel, Justina. “Is Self-Compassion the New and Improved SelfEsteem?” Www.theepochtimes.com. Https://www.theepochtimes.com/is-selfcompassion-the-new-and-improved-selfesteem_1753784.html?utm_expvariant=D001_01&utm_expid=2108267211.b4WAd2xRR0ybC6ydhoAj9w.1&utm_referrer=https%3A%2F%2Fwww.google.co
m%2F, 23 Sept. 2015. Web.
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Collapse SubdiscussionWarren Herrera
Warren
9:10amMay 23 at 9:10am
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Hello,
All of us tend to be harder on ourselves than we are on other people. When growing
up, we are taught to have a high self-esteem and to strive harder to be everything.
Let me rephrase that, to strive harder to appear to be everything. We searched for
those who would cater to that feeling our parents gave us under the direction of
parenting gurus. We looked for it in every girlfriend, boyfriend, friend, boss and
anyone else who would tell us how great we were so we could feel better about
ourselves. It did not take doing anything special, just being and feeling good about
being was all that was needed. Media and sales found a way to use that to get very
rich. We were perfect. So perfect we needed to wear certain clothes, color our hair
and read self-help books so we could know that we were perfect. If we believed it,
we would achieve it. Ironically, the more we strived for someone to validate our
perfection, the more we were anxious because we were not perfect. We felt like
failures, never good enough. If someone told us to be more confident, we would feel
something was the matter with us for not being confident like they were. While
human nature may tend to direct some of these feeling in us, Nathanial Brandon
wrote it down, sold it to us, then spoon fed it through our pediatricians, court
systems, school systems and employment systems. Brandon’s ideas of self-efficacy,
or honoring self, and his six pillars to obtain self-esteem do sound positive, uplifting
and… very 80s, perhaps it was perfect timing after the turmoil of the 1960s and the
anti-climactic 1970s. In any event, people subscribed to it. The result has been
thousands of Americans suffering for it. Narcissism, individualism and materialism
abound. (Epoch, 2015.) Brandon suggested that low self-esteem was the foundation
of most societal problems (Epoch, 2015). Now, we are finding that Brandon’s
teaching of self-esteem is partially the cause.
Self-compassion is a new concept in the Western world. It is the ability to feel
understanding, acceptance and love for oneself. Ironically, some may erroneously
see this as self-indulgence. But in fact, self-compassion creates security and heals
you. It also helps you have more compassion for others. It does not depend upon
stress or fear to feel good. Compassion is being able to have empathy and concern
for others who need it, even if one feels they do not deserve it. It does not rely on
action but feelings. And we should feel the same for ourselves. We have been
taught not to be self-indulgent, but at the same time we were taught to focus on how
great we are. Self-Compassion does not focus on those paradoxes. It focuses on
giving yourself a break. It is unconditionally loving oneself and when you do that, you
feel more secure and confident because you know that you do not have to be perfect
to be accepted by others and definitely not yourself.

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